Have you ever felt like you’re just going through the motions?
Maybe you catch yourself holding your breath.
Or powering through your day without pausing to ask, How do I feel?
Maybe your body feels stiff, heavy or tired but you’ve learned to ignore it.
This is disconnection. And you are not alone.
In a world that teaches women to give endlessly, to stay strong, to push through it’s no wonder so many of us have become strangers to our own bodies.
But here’s the beautiful truth:
You can come home to yourself.
Not through force, but through tenderness.
Not through hustle, but through gentle self-love.
Let’s explore 3 common signs of disconnection and how to soften back into your body.
1. You Feel Numb, Restless, or Disconnected from Pleasure
If you struggle to feel joy in the little things…
If you often feel flat or disconnected from your senses…
If pleasure feels indulgent or even out of reach…
Your body may be in quiet survival mode. And your nervous system? Longing for safety.
This kind of disconnection is a natural response to stress, burnout and centuries of conditioning that have taught women to downplay their desires.
Reconnection Tip: Begin with the senses.
Pleasure doesn’t have to be grand. It could be:
- The scent of your favourite oil.
- A sip of something warm.
- Running your fingers over soft fabric.
Choose one sensory moment each day and let yourself really feel it.
Breathe with it. Soften into it.
Let it remind you that you are allowed to enjoy this body you live in.
2. You Don’t Know What You Need or How You Feel
When you’re disconnected from your body, it’s hard to hear your intuition.
You might find yourself always seeking answers outside of yourself.
Or wondering why it’s so hard to know what you want.
Reconnection Tip: Listen inward with love.
Each morning or evening, try this:
- Place one hand on your heart, one on your belly.
- Take a few slow breaths.
- Ask softly: “What do I need right now?”
You don’t need to do anything about the answer straight away.
Just practice listening.
Because self-love begins with hearing yourself and honouring what you find.
3. You Live in Tension and Burnout
If your body feels tight…
If your shoulders never seem to drop…
If you forget to exhale until someone reminds you…
You may be stuck in a pattern of holding and bracing, which is very draining of precious energy and can feel exhausting.
Reconnection Tip: Invite softness and tenderness into your body.
Try this short self-love practice:
- Sit or lie down comfortably.
- Take three slow belly breaths.
- With each exhale, whisper to yourself:
“I’m allowed to rest.” - Gently stroke your arms or legs or give yourself a hug as you sway gently from side to side, the way you would soothe or comfort someone you love.
Touch is healing. Rest is a sacred act of reclamation.
You don’t need to earn softness, you are worthy of it now.
Reconnection Is a Relationship, Not a Quick Fix
This isn’t about “fixing” your body.
It’s about feeling it.
Loving it. Trusting it again.
Even the smallest moments of presence matter.
And each time you soften toward yourself, you’re rewriting old stories. Stories that said you had to stay small, silent and disconnected.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to feel.
You are allowed to come home to yourself.
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