When a woman truly meets herself, something in her begins to shift, not with drama or force, but with an unmistakable quiet power her soul has been whispering all along.
Initially her outer life still looks the same, the relationships, routines, expectations, all still orbiting around, whilst internally the landscape is rearranging.
She begins to realise she’s not available for the crumbs anymore, nor self-abandoning patterns or dynamics that drain or confuse her, or disconnect her from her own truth. There is usually a pivotal moment that leads a woman to fully sit with herself and see with clear eyes what is working and what isn’t.
Meeting herself means she feels her deepest desires, she begins to see any self-abandonment, where there is space for more compassion, action, or stillness required to move forward differently. She begins to listen to and honour all of her body’s signals without overriding them. Emotions get to move, her truth rises, old identities melt and pleasure is often felt where it wasn’t before.
This is where a quiet power arises and standards shift, not as boundaries that are shouted, but as a natural consequence of knowing her worth from the inside out.
When her standards rise from that place, people who once held access to her energy simply don’t anymore. There’s no dramatic goodbye, no fight to be understood and no long explanation. Old dynamics just don’t fit. There is no chaos or collapse, just a quiet whisper from within that is a deeper call for change beneath any complaints or confusion. Every complaint, of “I can’t do this anymore,” or “something has to shift” is a doorway and an invitation to meet herself at a level she never has before. When the invitation is accepted it becomes the beginning of a woman who knows her own frequency and protects it like the sacred thing it is.
While this journey doesn’t require burning the metaphorical house down, there are moments when the fire does come. Rage, grief, and raw emotion are part of the shedding, not something to suppress or fear. There are times when the dark goddess within demands to be felt, when a scream or a primal cry is the medicine that clears the way for softness to return. Rage, when honoured rather than unleashed blindly, becomes sacred, a force that burns away illusion and reclaims truth. This too is self-meeting and part of this alchemical process.
How This Alchemy Unfolds
These quiet shifts don’t come from trying harder, they arise from the spaces where we soften, slow down, and listen.
Through yin-centred practices, we learn to pause and dwell inside our own body, give space for tension unravel enough for deeper truths to surface. Yin teaches us to stay and to feel without fixing and to receive fully.
Through honouring our cyclical nature, we stop demanding consistency and start respecting our natural ebb and flow. We begin to see that rest, retreat, and receptivity are not indulgences but sacred parts of creation itself.
It is through devotion and discipline, that we meet our edges, the part of us that resists stillness, or craves distraction. Showing up for ourselves, again and again, even when it’s uncomfortable, is what refines our inner gold.
True alchemy is the marriage of softness and strength, surrender and structure, yin and fire. No longer afraid of our own depth, not giving any of our power away, allowing the woman we were never meant to fade, leaving only the unique vibration and radiance of who you are.
Begin Your Own Homecoming
If you feel the stirrings of this quiet shift and want a place to begin I have created an online space to meet yourself again and again called the Sensual & Somatic Self-Care Library.
This isn’t about ticking off self-care to-dos or taking a long bath (as nice as they are!). It’s self-care that feels like a sacred homecoming, a reconnection to your body, your breath, your pleasure, and your deep well of wisdom within.
Inside this £19 library, you’ll find lovingly curated video and audio practices to help you:
• Release emotional tension and stuck energy
• Activate your sensuality and pleasure
• Deepen self-trust and strengthen your boundaries
• Rest deeply and nourish your nervous system
• Awaken your aliveness and intuitive connection
Each practice invites you into deeper self-devotion, the kind that feels both edgy and exquisite, spacious and strong.
You can explore it here → Sensual & Somatic Self-Care Library
